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Self-sabotage is a sign of a distorted self-image, so the goal is to:
move from the position of a captain / control:
- “I need to do this task”;
- “I have to stick to this routine”
- etc.
to the position of an observer / helper:
- “how pleasant / unpleasant was this for me?”
- “does my routine give me the maximum amount of energy?”
- etc.
When there is no contradiction with yourself – neither internally (beliefs about yourself and about life) nor externally (your apartment, routine, etc.) – then it does not exist at the level of actions either.
move from the position of a captain / control:
- “I need to do this task”;
- “I have to stick to this routine”
- etc.
to the position of an observer / helper:
- “how pleasant / unpleasant was this for me?”
- “does my routine give me the maximum amount of energy?”
- etc.
When there is no contradiction with yourself – neither internally (beliefs about yourself and about life) nor externally (your apartment, routine, etc.) – then it does not exist at the level of actions either.