Exceptions. Pain: from losing someone close; from an unpleasant result after doing something for the first time.
The way you see yourself determines the choices you make.
If the way you saw yourself were close to who you really are by nature, you would not make choices that lead to pain. You would react faster to what is destructive for you, without waiting for the situation to become painful.
Therefore:
Results you are not glad with only show that you don't understand yourself well enough, since you ended up where you aren't meant to be.
Which means: