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Because:
1. No one chooses:
- what predisposition they will have (what will be liked or disliked, and to what extent);
- the conditions they will be born into;
- what will happen to them later and how those events will affect them.
2. Action isn’t initiative, action is a reaction to a change in circumstances.
3. What we call choice is, in practice, working out which option we perceive, based on our experience, as the one that will improve our state the most.
In other words, living means watching the film you were given and experiencing it, rather than being its screenwriter, director, etc.
Therefore:
1. No one chooses:
- what predisposition they will have (what will be liked or disliked, and to what extent);
- the conditions they will be born into;
- what will happen to them later and how those events will affect them.
2. Action isn’t initiative, action is a reaction to a change in circumstances.
3. What we call choice is, in practice, working out which option we perceive, based on our experience, as the one that will improve our state the most.
In other words, living means watching the film you were given and experiencing it, rather than being its screenwriter, director, etc.
Therefore:
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It does not matter whether anyone knows the outcome: what matters is that acting outside the logic described above is impossible. Even if someone deliberately starts choosing worse options, they are still acting on the same drive to protect themselves from greater pain by defending their beliefs – an attempt to keep their state from getting worse, not an act of free will.
All of these are invented, illogical concepts whose use causes varying degrees of pain-stress through guilt, lack of self-trust, judgments, comparisons, belief in discipline, etc.
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You first live through an experience (including the decisions being made), and only then become aware of it. In other words, the unconscious is the cause, and consciousness is the effect.
An analogy: the unconscious is the computer and the power source, while consciousness is the monitor.
So consciousness is not the center of self-control. Consciousness is one of the skills of the unconscious.
An analogy: the unconscious is the computer and the power source, while consciousness is the monitor.
So consciousness is not the center of self-control. Consciousness is one of the skills of the unconscious.
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You can only understand what you are predisposed to, but you ca not change it.
If you go against your predisposition, you will soon run out of energy, and life will become more unbearable with each day. I suppose no one would want to spend their life in a “personal hell” rather than a “personal heaven”, so all that remains is to do your function.
So:
If you go against your predisposition, you will soon run out of energy, and life will become more unbearable with each day. I suppose no one would want to spend their life in a “personal hell” rather than a “personal heaven”, so all that remains is to do your function.
So:
This kind of behavior can be compared to a parent who believes they know better who their child should be, who to spend time with, what to be interested in, etc.
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Because the amount of stress determines how much you feel the need to do something*:
70% stress: a state of crisis → “I urgently need to change something, I cannot be calm”;
20% stress: a usual state → you do tasks at your usual pace;
0% stress: a state of euphoria → you cannot even think about anything, you simply exist, and that already feels incredible.
That is:
circumstances changed → the person felt more or less comfortable → the need to do something became bigger or smaller.
*Exceptions are situations in which the circumstances are so difficult that a person has no chance to recover even a little: long-term depersonalization, the highest degree of apathy / depression, etc.
70% stress: a state of crisis → “I urgently need to change something, I cannot be calm”;
20% stress: a usual state → you do tasks at your usual pace;
0% stress: a state of euphoria → you cannot even think about anything, you simply exist, and that already feels incredible.
That is:
circumstances changed → the person felt more or less comfortable → the need to do something became bigger or smaller.
*Exceptions are situations in which the circumstances are so difficult that a person has no chance to recover even a little: long-term depersonalization, the highest degree of apathy / depression, etc.
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Because actions are not initiative. Actions are a reaction to changes in circumstances that become more or less comfortable for a person.
So all stories about how someone became “disciplined” are a scenario where circumstances started to bring a person so much pain that dealing with their self-sabotage became cheaper than tolerating the situation any longer. That is, it is a set of circumstances, not a skill or a decision to “take control of your life.”
In addition to this:
1. The idea of “discipline” strongly distorts the essence of goals.
When you act through “discipline,” your attention is focused on the wording of the goal. But in the past, you always know yourself worse than you will in the future. So any wording is only a guess about what may potentially make your life better.
That is, “discipline” is a risk of spending time, energy, and other resources away from the actual goal – to make life better.
And the more the structure of society has distorted your perception, the more pain you will feel while playing “discipline.”
So all stories about how someone became “disciplined” are a scenario where circumstances started to bring a person so much pain that dealing with their self-sabotage became cheaper than tolerating the situation any longer. That is, it is a set of circumstances, not a skill or a decision to “take control of your life.”
In addition to this:
1. The idea of “discipline” strongly distorts the essence of goals.
When you act through “discipline,” your attention is focused on the wording of the goal. But in the past, you always know yourself worse than you will in the future. So any wording is only a guess about what may potentially make your life better.
That is, “discipline” is a risk of spending time, energy, and other resources away from the actual goal – to make life better.
And the more the structure of society has distorted your perception, the more pain you will feel while playing “discipline.”
You may also start to intentionally ignore some of your signals, seeing them as “weakness / self-sabotage, etc.” Because you will be sure that they distract you from the “chosen path / success.” While these warnings will be really important for you: it is time to take care of yourself, change the strategy and / or tactics of reaching the goal, or change something in life as a whole.
2. All this will affect how confident you can feel in the future.
Because as soon as you stop recovering, your ability to be “disciplined” / productive will also disappear. This will later lead to comparing yourself with those who supposedly managed to become “disciplined.” As a result, you may start to feel that “I’m not enough / I don’t understand how to trust myself, etc.”
People first invented “discipline,” which does not actually exist, and then started to mass-judge themselves and others by this invention, later also selling air as a “skill.”
2. All this will affect how confident you can feel in the future.
Because as soon as you stop recovering, your ability to be “disciplined” / productive will also disappear. This will later lead to comparing yourself with those who supposedly managed to become “disciplined.” As a result, you may start to feel that “I’m not enough / I don’t understand how to trust myself, etc.”
People first invented “discipline,” which does not actually exist, and then started to mass-judge themselves and others by this invention, later also selling air as a “skill.”
